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Heartbreaker 101: How to Heal Your Heart And Be Glad Heís Gone!

» Introduction
Thereís no denying it. Breaking up is oh-so hard to do, especially in todayís 24-hour techno-savvy world of Facebook, Twitter, and post-breakup booty calls arranged via sexting. Before you get down in the dumps about getting dumped (or even if you did the dumping), the following five tips will help kick start your recovery. Before you know it, youíll not only be surviving but thriving!
» Step 1
Tip #1: EXtract Your Ex from Your Life
Immediately following the split, cut your ex out of your life. That means no cyber stalking him on his Facebook, MySpace, or Twitter page, no 3 a.m. desperation emails or texts, and no driving by your exís house to see who's home. You should also make a clean sweep of your home, getting rid of any and all items that remind you or relate to your ex. This exorcism can be challenging but in order to really move on after a breakup, it's absolutely essential.

If you have to keep your ex in your life (if you have kids together, run a business together, etc.), you should immediately create new boundaries and ground rules. For example, only discuss matters relating to your children or business and avoid talking about your personal lives. Do NOT try to help each other through the breakup. That's what your friends are for.
» Step 2
Tip #2: Recruit a Boo-Hoo Crew
And speaking of friends, as much as your instincts may be nudging you to wallow all alone in your comfy cocoon, you're never going to get through the breakup without them. Which is why now's the time to recruit a Boo-Hoo Crew. Part cheerleader, part therapist, your Boo-Hoo Crew should be reliable, patient, and consist of at least three friends for round-the-clock supervision and support. The role of the Boo-Hoo Crew is to provide the following:
A shoulder to cry on
A voice of reason
Damage control (in case you get the urge to contact your ex)
The bright side
» Step 3
Tip #3: Forgive yourself
Women are especially tough on themselves following a breakup. They feel like a failure at love. They also feel like their chances of experiencing their happily ever after future have just been obliterated. The Whyís, What ifís, and If only IídÖ statements take over, driving even the sanest woman to the brink of insanity. Thatís why itís essential in breakup recovery to forgive yourself, to understand that you did everything you possibly could, but things still didnít work out. Itís not a character flaw. Itís just reality.
» Step 4
Tip #4: Put your Focus Elsewhere
Feeling down in the dumps after getting dumped? While you should give yourself time to celebrate your slump, you shouldnít let your entire life go down the drain. Focus your energies on building your business, landing that promotion, or in some other way make your work life take off. By committing to your future success, you take the focus off your ex and the past and put it on your brilliant future.
» Step 5
Tip #5: Redefine Happily Ever After
While the future you and your ex had mapped out together has suddenly disappeared, your happily ever after future didnít die. Nowís the time to reinvent what you want for yourself and your future. Is it time to change careers, go back to school, buy your first home, transform your body, etc.? Without being tied down, youíre now free to do exactly what youíve always dreamed of. Set some goals, identify some action steps, and go for it!

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