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Can we be friends? Learn the ABCs of Ex Etiquette

» Introduction
Can we be friends? After a breakup, this simple question can weigh heavy on your mind. The truth is, most people who try to stay friends with their ex are just doing so in hopes of either rekindling the relationship or using the other person as a crutch until someone better comes along. What happens when itís the other person who moves on first? Ouch! The following is a cheat sheet on appropriate ways of communicating with your ex after the Big Breakup.
» Step 1
By Phone
The reasons for talking to your ex on the phone are...wait. There are none. Delete his number from your cell phone. And if he leaves you a message, listen to it only once in case your million-dollar check from Publishers Clearing House somehow ended up at his address. Then delete immediately and move on.
» Step 2
Via Email, IM, Text Messaging, Facebook
After youíve arranged to return each otherís stuff, delete your ex from your email address book, your Facebook friends, and your instant messaging contacts. That way when youíre having a fragile moment at three A.M., youíre not tempted to contact him. (The repercussions the following day can be both embarrassing and costly to your recovery). And if you were hoping to keep tabs on your ex by tracking his every online move or possible new dating adventures via his Tweets? Donít do it. Itíll just make you wonder who heís talking to (or obsess about those girls who keep leaving him flirty @ replies), and you donít need that. Delete him from all of your social networking sites immediately
» Step 3
In Person
And because there are just too many emotions swirling around in your post-breakup head, you should avoid seeing your ex in person at all costs. If you see your ex too soon, you run the risk of suffering potentially bad consequences, like maybe these including any or all of the following:Ö

1. Losing face by crying hysterically
2. Waking up beside him the next morning and realizing you just had sex with your ex
3. Getting arrested for assault and battery

Letís face it. None of these situations are is ideal. So if you can, avoid seeing your ex until your emotions are more stable. Only you can determine when that will be (and itís okay to say never!).

Breaking up is never easy. And staying connected to your ex only makes it more challenging. By following the ex etiquette Iíve outlined above, you accelerate your healing heart and guarantee a happier ending in your future.

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ABC's of Ex Etiquette
The OPINION of this writer is respected. It has been my experience that if I liked the person enough to date them, I like them enough to want to keep them as a friend. My best friend is someone I dated for months, we remained friends and are now five years later best platonic friends. In fact, I am still friends with both my ex-husband and anoter ex. Many times people like each other more and get along better when the pressure of being a 'couple' is gone. Ex's can and most certainly do stay and become better friends as ex's!
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