Parenting: Acknowledge your Boundaries
Parents feel they sometimes have no choice. Take the initiative to take act...
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Parents feel they sometimes have no choice. Take the initiative to take action accordingly.
Another powerful parenting tool is to acknowledge your boundaries. I’ve had clients whose children can manipulate them in horrible ways by saying, “Oh, I’m going to kill myself” or you know, “I don’t know if I’ll ever come home if you make me do this” and so the parents feel like they have no choice.
The simple thing to do is to tell the child, “Listen, the very next time you threaten to do that, you’re going to rehab”. And you set it up, you call a rehab center, you get it set up so that if that happens and they threaten to either cut themselves or kill themselves or do something crazy, you say, “That’s it, you’re going straight to rehab”. And you take them in, they’re going to go for the psychological treatment, there going to spend a weekend out of home. And, I think you’ll find that after that one weekend, they’re going to start behaving themselves.
You see, the human nervous system doesn’t learn from threats or what we say. We know that our children learn from what actually happens to them. That’s the way we train the human nervous system.